"I always let him have my way"... That was the answer of a woman, married to the same man for 81 years, when asked the secret to having such a long marriage. I like the way that old gal thinks! Not that it works that way for me (all the time) but that woman is onto something!
Fist of all, think about that! 81 years! Good lord! They've probably started to look alike! That is twice as long as hubby and I... I can't imagine! Now, don't get me wrong. I love my husband of 42 years but really? 81 years?
This got me to thinking how all couples have their "secrets" as to why they're still married. And for anyone who cares about my take on things, here are mine.
1. Have a sense of humor...about EVERYTHING! It gets you through the tough times and makes the good times better. Plus, when you're falling apart and you don't look quite the same as you did years ago, it's not such a shock when he chuckles at how you look NOW---and visa versa.
2. Have 2 televisions. That way, you don't have to be subjected to his football games, Walking Dead" marathons, or the 37th airing of "Tombstone". And he doesn't have to endure your chick flicks, cooking programs, or "The Ellen Degeneres Show.
3. If kids are part of the equation, always present a united front...an "us vs them" attitude....because if I know anything, it's that kids can be little manipulators (so I've been told, sons.) and if they see a crack in the front, they'll pit one against the other, for sure.
4. Always make time for a date night. With the constant demands of jobs, running a household and running kids all over, taking time out with your love, is of the utmost importance. It gives you a chance to connect, plus, when the kids grow up and leave, there you are. You don't want to be strangers.
5. Make saying "Thank you" a big part of your marital conversation...both sides. An attitude of gratitude makes married life a lot more pleasant. And who doesn't want to feel appreciated?
6. The old adage "Never go to bed mad" has merit... Now, you may get mad after you go to bed... because of his snoring or her cover-hogging... but don't start off your slumber, aggravated.
This is just my perspective on the topic. If you were to ask "my rock", he'd say honesty, candor and a fear of alimony...(see what I mean about humor?) are his secrets to a lengthy marriage.
Now, I'm no marriage expert, that's for sure. Everyone has what works for them and you figure it out as you go. For 81 years? That won't happen here, I'm pretty sure, and if it doesn't, what kind of alimony are we talking about?
Keep smiling!
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